After reading my favorite relationship blog undressingHER-Lust. Love. Life it left me asking myself if I am or have ever been a jumpoff. I was reading his blog post titled 5 Times Not To Take Her Home and in the post he mentioned a real woman not being like a jumpoff because she would never step foot in your house if she knew another woman lived there. So this got me thinking....... First, I guess I should explain exactly what a jumpoff is. This is a woman that a man has a sexual relationship with but has no intentions of having a commited relationship with. According to this definition I have definantly been a jumpoff many, many times over and I am not proud of it. What really bothers me is the fact that when these jumpoff relationships started I knew what I was getting into and accepted it. Then when I wanted something more and the dude didn't I got mad at him when I should be mad at myself. The crazy thing is I always enter these relationships thinking they will lead to more, it only leads to heartbreak on my part. So why do I always settle for sex without comittment....because I LOVE SEX. When I meet someone I really like I immediately want to be intimate with them. It is hard for me to hold off on sex untill I get commitment but in the long run I always wind up wanting that commitment so it is something I must learn to do.Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Am I a Jumpoff?
After reading my favorite relationship blog undressingHER-Lust. Love. Life it left me asking myself if I am or have ever been a jumpoff. I was reading his blog post titled 5 Times Not To Take Her Home and in the post he mentioned a real woman not being like a jumpoff because she would never step foot in your house if she knew another woman lived there. So this got me thinking....... First, I guess I should explain exactly what a jumpoff is. This is a woman that a man has a sexual relationship with but has no intentions of having a commited relationship with. According to this definition I have definantly been a jumpoff many, many times over and I am not proud of it. What really bothers me is the fact that when these jumpoff relationships started I knew what I was getting into and accepted it. Then when I wanted something more and the dude didn't I got mad at him when I should be mad at myself. The crazy thing is I always enter these relationships thinking they will lead to more, it only leads to heartbreak on my part. So why do I always settle for sex without comittment....because I LOVE SEX. When I meet someone I really like I immediately want to be intimate with them. It is hard for me to hold off on sex untill I get commitment but in the long run I always wind up wanting that commitment so it is something I must learn to do.
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When you begin to love YOU more than sex, you'll make better decisions.
ReplyDeleteI was there once...only fun in the beginning. It wears old after awhile.
Pour all that energy and compassion into yourself, your children, your career. You may just find that you have no time for activities that don't serve you.